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This explanation covers the basics that
you will need to understand how the
Enneagram works, and will be especially
helpful for beginners. As you will see, only
a few simple concepts are needed to begin
your journey of self-discovery. The
Enneagram, however, is ultimately subtle and
complex, as you will appreciate the more you
use it in your life. For more guidelines and
information visit www.EnneagramInstitute.com
Structure
The Enneagram's structure may look
complicated, although it is actually simple.
It will help you understand the Enneagram if
you sketch it yourself.
Draw a circle and mark nine equidistant
points on its circumference. Designate each
point by a number from one to nine, with
nine at the top, for symmetry and by
convention. Each point represents one of the
nine basic personality types.
The nine points on the circumference are
also connected with each other by the inner
lines of the Enneagram. Note that points
Three, Six, and Nine form an equilateral
triangle. The remaining six points are
connected in the following order: One
connects with Four, Four with Two, Two with
Eight, Eight with Five, Five with Seven, and
Seven with One. These six points form an
irregular hexagram. The meaning of these
inner lines will be discussed shortly.

The Enneagram
Your Basic Personality Type
From one point of view, the Enneagram can be
seen as a set of nine distinct personality
types, with each number on the Enneagram
denoting one type. It is common to find a
little of yourself in all nine of the types,
although one of them should stand out as
being closest to yourself. This is your
basic personality type.
Everyone emerges from childhood with one
of the nine types dominating their
personality, with inborn temperament and
other pre-natal factors being the main
determinants of our type. This is one area
where most all of the major Enneagram
authors agree we are born with a
dominant type. Subsequently, this inborn
orientation largely determines the ways in
which we learn to adapt to our early
childhood environment. It also seems to lead
to certain unconscious orientations toward
our parental figures, but why this is so, we
still do not know. In any case, by the time
children are four or five years old, their
consciousness has developed sufficiently to
have a separate sense of self. Although
their identity is still very fluid, at this
age children begin to establish themselves
and find ways of fitting into the world on
their own.
Thus, the overall orientation of our
personality reflects the totality of all
childhood factors (including genetics) that
influenced its development.
Several more points can be made about the
basic type itself.
- People do not change from one basic
personality type to another.
- The descriptions of the personality
types are universal and apply equally to
males and females, since no type is
inherently masculine or feminine.
- Not everything in the description of
your basic type will apply to you all
the time because you fluctuate
constantly among the healthy, average,
and unhealthy traits that make up your
personality type.
- The Enneagram uses numbers to
designate each of the types because
numbers are value neutral they imply
the whole range of attitudes and
behaviours of each type without
specifying anything either positive or
negative. Unlike the labels used in
psychiatry, numbers provide an unbiased,
shorthand way of indicating a lot about
a person without being pejorative.
- The numerical ranking of the types is
not significant. A larger number is no
better than a smaller number; it is not
better to be a Nine than a Two because
nine is a bigger number.
- No type is inherently better or worse
than any other. While all the
personality types have unique assets and
liabilities, some types are often more
desirable than others in any given
culture or group. Furthermore, for one
reason or another, you may not be happy
being a particular type. You may feel
that your type is
"handicapped" in some way. As
you learn more about all the types, you
will see that just as each has unique
capacities, each has different
limitations. If some types are more
esteemed in Western society than others,
it is because of the qualities that
society rewards, not because of any
superior value of those types. The ideal
is to become your best self, not to
imitate the assets of another type.
Identifying Your Basic Personality Type
As you think about your personality, which
of the following nine roles fits you best
most of the time? Or, to put it differently,
if you were to describe yourself in a few
words, which of the following word clusters
would come closest?

The Enneagram with
Riso-Hudson Type Names
These one-word descriptors can be
expanded into four-word sets of traits. Keep
in mind that these are merely highlights and
do not represent the full spectrum of each
type.
Type One is principled,
purposeful, self-controlled, and
perfectionistic.
Type Two is generous,
demonstrative, people-pleasing, and
possessive.
Type Three is adaptable,
excelling, driven, and image-conscious.
Type Four is expressive,
dramatic, self-absorbed, and
temperamental.
Type Five is perceptive,
innovative, secretive, and provocative.
Type Six is engaging,
responsible, anxious, and suspicious.
Type Seven is spontaneous,
versatile, distractible, and scattered.
Type Eight is self-confident,
decisive, wilful, and confrontational.
Type Nine is receptive,
reassuring, agreeable, and complacent.
The Triads
The Enneagram is a 3 x 3 arrangement of nine
personality types in three Triads. There are
three types in the Instinctive Triad, three
in the Feeling Triad, and three in the
Thinking Triad, as shown below. Each Triad
consists of three personality types that
have in common the assets and liabilities of
that Triad. For example, personality type
Four has unique strengths and liabilities
involving its feelings, which is why it is
in the Feeling Triad. Likewise, the Eight's
assets and liabilities involve its
relationship to its instinctual drives,
which is why it is in the Instinctive Triad,
and so forth for all nine personality types.

The Triads of the
Enneagram
The inclusion of each type is its Triad
is not arbitrary. Each type results from a
particular relationship with a cluster of
issues that characterize that Triad. Most
simply, these issues revolve around a
powerful, largely unconscious emotional
response to the loss of contact with the
core of the self. In the Instinctive Triad,
the emotion is Anger or Rage. In the Feeling
Triad, the emotion is Shame, and in the
Thinking Triad, it is Anxiety or Dread. Of
course, all nine types contain all three of
these emotions, but in each Triad, the
personalities of the types are particularly
affected by that Triads emotional theme.

The Dominant Emotion of
each Triad
Thus, each type has a particular way of
coping with the dominant emotion of its
Triad. We can briefly see what this means by
examining each type, Triad by Triad. In the
Instinctive Triad, Eights act out their
anger and instinctual energies. In other
words, when Eights feel anger building in
them, they immediately respond to it in some
physical way, raising their voices, moving
more forcefully. Others can clearly see that
Eights are angry because they give
themselves permission to express their anger
physically.
Nines deny their anger and
instinctual energies as if to say,
"What anger? I am not a person who gets
angry." Nines are the type most out of
touch with their anger and instinctual
energies, often feeling threatened by them.
Of course, Nines get angry like everyone
else, but try to stay out of their darker
feelings by focusing on idealizations of
their relationships and their world.
Ones attempt to control or repress
their anger and instinctual energy. They
feel that they must stay in control of
themselves, especially of their instinctual
impulses and angry feelings at all times.
They would like to direct these energies
according to the dictates of their highly
developed inner critic (superego), the
source of their strictures on themselves and
others.
In the Feeling Triad, Twos attempt
to control their shame by getting other
people to like them and to think of them as
good people. They also want to convince
themselves that they are good, loving people
by focusing on their positive feelings for
others while repressing their negative
feelings (such as anger and resentment at
not being appreciated enough). As long as
Twos can get positive emotional responses
from others, they feel wanted and are able
to control feelings of shame.
Threes try to deny their shame,
and are potentially the most out of touch
with underlying feelings of inadequacy.
Threes learn to cope with shame by trying to
become what they believe a valuable,
successful person is like. Thus, Threes
learn to perform well, to be acceptable,
even outstanding and are often driven
relentlessly in their pursuit of success as
a way of staving off feelings of shame and
fears of failure.
Fours attempt to control their
shame by focusing on how unique and special
their particular talents, feelings, and
personal characteristics are. Fours
highlight their individuality and creativity
as a way of dealing with their shameful
feelings, although Fours are the type most
likely to succumb to feelings of inadequacy.
Fours also manage their shame by cultivating
a rich, romantic fantasy life in which they
do not have to deal with whatever in their
life seems drab or uninteresting to them.
In the Thinking Triad, Fives have
anxiety about the outer world and about
their capacity to cope with it. Thus, they
cope with their fear by withdrawing from the
world. Fives become secretive, isolated
loners who use their minds to penetrate into
the nature of the world. Fives hope that
eventually, as they understand reality on
their own terms, they will be able to rejoin
the world and participate in it, but they
never feel they know enough to participate
with total confidence. Instead, they involve
themselves with increasingly complex inner
worlds.
Sixes are the most anxious type,
and the most out of touch with their own
sense of inner knowing and confidence.
Unlike Fives, Sixes have trouble trusting
their own minds, so they are constantly
looking outside themselves for something to
make them feel sure of themselves. They
might turn to philosophies, beliefs,
relationships, jobs, savings, authorities,
or any combination of the above. But no
matter how many security structures they
create, Sixes still feel doubtful and
anxious. They may even begin to doubt the
very people and beliefs that they have
turned to for reassurance. Sixes may also
respond to their anxiety by impulsively
confronting it defying their fear in the
effort to be free of it.
Sevens have anxiety about their
inner world. There are feelings of pain,
loss, deprivation, and general anxiety that
Sevens would like to stay clear of as much
as possible. To cope with these feelings,
Sevens keep their minds occupied with
exciting possibilities and options as
long as they have something stimulating to
anticipate, Sevens feel that they can
distract themselves from their fears.
Sevens, in most cases, do not stop merely at
thinking about these options, however. As
much as possible they attempt to actually do
as many of their options as they can. Thus,
Sevens can be found staying on the go,
pursuing one experience after another, and
keeping themselves entertained and engaged
with their many ideas and activities.
The Wing
No one is a pure personality type: everyone
is a unique mixture of his or her basic type
and usually one of the two types adjacent to
it on the circumference of the Enneagram.
One of the two types adjacent to your basic
type is called your wing.
Your basic type dominates your overall
personality, while the wing complements it
and adds important, sometimes contradictory,
elements to your total personality. Your
wing is the "second side" of your
personality, and it must be taken into
consideration to better understand yourself
or someone else. For example, if you are a
personality type Nine, you will have likely
have either a One-wing or an Eight-wing, and
your personality as a whole can best be
understood by considering the traits of the
Nine as they uniquely blend with the traits
of either the One or the Eight. In our
teaching experience over the years, we have
also encountered some individuals who seem
to have both wings, while others are
strongly influenced by their basic type and
show little of either wing.
There is disagreement among the various
traditions of the Enneagram about whether
individuals have one or two wings. Strictly
speaking, everyone has two wings in the
restricted sense that both of the types
adjacent to your basic type are operative in
your personality since each person possesses
the potentials of all nine types. However,
this is not what is usually meant by
"having two wings," and proponents
of the so-called two-wing theory believe
that both wings operate more or less equally
in everyone's personality. (For example,
they believe that a Nine would have roughly
equal amounts of his or her Eight and One
wings.)
Observation of people leads us to
conclude that while the two-wing theory
applies to some individuals, most people
have a dominant wing. In the vast majority
of people, while the so-called second wing
always remains operative to some degree, the
dominant wing is far more important. (For
example, Twos with Three-wings are
noticeably different from Twos with
One-wings, and while Twos with Three-wings
have a One-wing, it is not nearly as
important as the Three-wing.) It is
therefore clearer to refer simply to a
type's "wing" as opposed to its
"dominant wing," since the two
terms represent the same concept.
One other observation about wings is
worth mentioning. In the course of teaching
the Enneagram in workshops and Trainings,
many people in the latter half of their
lives have reported the development of their
so-called "second wing." And in
individuals who have been pursuing
psychological and/or spiritual work, we have
seen evidence that this is true. We do not
know, however, whether these students were
merely seeing all of the positive potentials
of the nine types unfolding in them as they
matured their second wing being one of
the other seven types or whether this
was a specific development of the second
wing type. We will continue to investigate
this idea in our work with our students and
colleagues.
It is, of course, necessary to identify
your basic type before you can assess which
wing you have. Besides indicating your basic
type, the Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type
Indicator may also indicate your wing.
This can be found at www.EnneagramInstitute.com.
The Levels of Development
There is an internal structure within each
personality type. That structure is the
continuum of behaviours, attitudes,
defences, and motivations formed by the nine
Levels of Development which makes up the
personality type itself. This discovery (and
the working out of all the traits that
comprise each type) was made by Don Riso
in 1977, and has been subsequently developed
with Russ Hudson in the last ten
years. They are the only Enneagram teachers
to include this important factor in their
treatment of the Enneagram. The Levels are
an important contribution not only to the
Enneagram but to ego psychology and the
personality types of the Enneagram cannot be
adequately explained without them. The
Levels account for differences between
people of the same type as well as how
people change both for better or worse.
Thus, they can also help therapists and
counsellors pinpoint what is actually going
on with clients and suggest solutions to the
problems they are having.
The Levels of Development provide a
framework for seeing how all of the
different traits that comprise each type fit
into a large whole; they are a way of
conceptualizing the underlying
"skeletal" structure of each type.
Without the Levels, the types can seem to be
an arbitrary collection of unrelated traits,
with contradictory behaviours and attitudes
often part of the picture. But by
understanding the Levels for each type, one
can see how all of the traits are
interrelated and how healthy traits can
deteriorate into average traits and possibly
into unhealthy ones. As pioneering
consciousness philosopher Ken Wilber has
noted, without the Levels, the Enneagram is
reduced to a "horizontal" set of
nine discrete categories. By including the
Levels, however, a "vertical"
dimension is added that not only reflects
the complexity of human nature, but goes far
in explaining many different, important
elements within personality.
Further, with the Levels, a dynamic
element is introduced that reflects the
changing nature of the personality patterns
themselves. You have probably noticed that
people change constantly sometimes they
are clearer, more free, grounded, and
emotionally available, while at other times
they are more anxious, resistant, reactive,
emotionally volatile and less free.
Understanding the Levels makes it clear that
when people change states within their
personality, they are shifting within the
spectrum of motivations, traits, and
defences that make up their personality
type.
To understand an individual accurately,
it is necessary to perceive where the person
lies along the continuum of Levels of his or
her type at a given time. In other words,
one must assess whether a person is in their
healthy, average, or unhealthy range of
functioning. This is important because, for
example, two people of the same personality
type and wing will differ significantly if
one is healthy and the other unhealthy. (In
relationships and in the business world,
understanding this distinction is crucial.)
The continuum is comprised of nine
internal Levels of Development briefly,
there are three Levels in the healthy
section, three Levels in the average
section, and three Levels in the unhealthy
section. It may help you to think of the
continuum of Levels as a photographer's grey
scale which has gradations from pure white
to pure black with many shades of grey in
between. On the continuum, the healthiest
traits appear first, at the top, so to
speak. As we move down the continuum in a
spiral pattern, we progressively pass
through each Level of Development marking a
distinct shift in the personality's
deterioration to the pure black of
psychological breakdown at the bottom. The
continuum for each of the personality types
can be seen in the following diagram.
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Level 1
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The Level of
Liberation |
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Healthy
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Level 2
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The Level
of Psychological Capacity |
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Level 3
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The Level
of Social Value |
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Level 4
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The Level
of Imbalance/ Social Role |
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Average
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Level 5
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The Level
of Interpersonal Control |
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Level 6
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The Level of
Overcompensation |
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Level 7
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The Level of
Violation |
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Unhealthy
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Level 8
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The Level
of Obsession and Compulsion |
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Level 9
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The Level
of Pathological Destructiveness |
The Continuum of the
Levels of Development
At each Level, significant psychological
shifts occur as is indicated by the title we
have given to it. For example, at Level 5,
the Level of Interpersonal Control, the
person is trying to manipulate himself and
others to get his or her psychological needs
met. This invariably creates interpersonal
conflicts. By this Level, the person has
also fully identified with the ego and does
not see himself as anything more than that:
the ego must therefore be increasingly
defended and inflated for the person to feel
safe and to keep their identity in tact. If
this activity does not satisfy the person,
and anxiety increases, he or she may
deteriorate to the next state, Level 6, the
Level of Overcompensation, where their
behaviour will become more intrusive and
aggressive as they continue to purse their
ego-agenda. Anxiety is increasing, and the
person is increasingly disruptive, and
focused on getting his needs met, regardless
of the impact on people around them.
One of the most profound ways of
understanding the Levels is as a measure of
our capacity to be present. The more we move
down the Levels, the more identified we are
with our ego and its increasingly negative
and restrictive patterns. Our personality
becomes more defensive, reactive, and
automatic and we consequently have less
and less real freedom and less real
consciousness. As we move down the Levels,
we become caught in more compulsive,
destructive actions which are ultimately
self-defeating.
By contrast, the movement toward health,
up the Levels, is simultaneous with being
more present and awake in our minds, hearts,
and bodies. As we become more present, we
become less fixated in the defensive
structures of our personality and are more
attuned and open to ourselves and our
environment. We see our personality
objectively in action rather than
"falling asleep" to our automatic
personality patterns. There is therefore the
possibility of "not doing" our
personality and of gaining some real
distance the negative consequences of
getting caught in it.
As we become more present, we see our
personality traits more objectively and the
Levels become a continuous guide to
self-observation, a map that we can use to
chart where we are in our psycho-spiritual
development at any given time. As we move
"up" the Levels, we discover that
we are freer and less driven by compulsive,
unconscious drives and therefore able to act
more effectively in all areas of our lives,
including in our relationships. When we are
less identified with our personality, we
find that we respond as needed to whatever
life presents, actualizing the positive
potentials in all nine types, bringing real
peace, creativity, strength, joy,
compassion, and other positive qualities to
whatever we are doing.
Directions of Integration (Security)
and Disintegration (Stress)
As we have seen with the Levels of
Development, the nine personality types of
the Enneagram are not static categories:
they reflect our change over time. Further,
the sequence of the types and the
arrangement of the inner lines of the symbol
are not arbitrary. The inner lines of the
Enneagram connect the types in a sequence
that denotes what each type will do under
different conditions. There are two lines
connected to each type, and they connect
with two other types. One line connects with
a type that represents how a person of the
first type behaves when they feel more
secure and in control of a situation. This
is called the Direction of Integration or
the Security Point. The other line goes to
another type that represents how the person
is likely to act out if they are under
increased stress and pressure when they
feel they are not in control of the
situation. This second line is called the
Direction of Stress or Disintegration. In
other words, different situations will evoke
different kinds of responses from your
personality. You will respond our adapt in
different directions, as indicated by the
lines of the Enneagram from your basic type.
Again, we see the flexibility and dynamism
of the Enneagram.
The Direction of Stress or Disintegration
for each type is indicated by the sequence
of numbers 1-4-2-8-5-7-1. This means that an
average to unhealthy One under stress will
eventually behave like an average to
unhealthy Four; an average to unhealthy Four
will act out their stress like an average to
unhealthy Two; an average to unhealthy Two
will act out under stress like an Eight, an
Eight will act out under stress like a Five,
a Five will act out like a Seven, and a
Seven will act our like a One. (An easy way
to remember the sequence is to realize that
1-4 or 14 doubles to 28, and that doubles to
57 or almost so. Thus, 1-4-2-8-5-7
and the sequence returns to 1 and begins
again.) Likewise, on the equilateral
triangle, the sequence is 9-6-3-9: a
stressed out Nine will act out like a Six, a
stressed out Six will act out like a Three,
and a stressed out Three will act out like a
Nine. (You can remember this sequence if you
think of the numerical values diminishing as
the types become more stressed and reactive.
You can see how this works by following the
direction of the arrows on the following
Enneagram.

The Direction of
Disintegration
1-4-2-8-5-7-1
9-6-3-9
The Direction of Integration
or Security is indicated for
each type by the reverse of the sequences
for disintegration. Each type moves toward
integration in a direction that is the
opposite of its unhealthy direction. Thus,
the sequence for the Direction of
Integration is 1-7-5-8-2-4-1: an integrating
One goes to Seven, an integrating Seven goes
to Five, an integrating Five goes to Eight,
an integrating Eight goes to Two, an
integrating Two goes to Four, and an
integrating Four goes to One. On the
equilateral triangle, the sequence is
9-3-6-9: an integrating Nine will go to
Three, an integrating Three will go to Six,
and an integrating Six will go to Nine. You
can see how this works by following the
direction of the arrows on the following
Enneagram.

The Direction of
Integration
1-7-5-8-2-4-1
9-3-6-9
It is not necessary to have separate
Enneagrams for the Direction of Integration
and the Direction of Disintegration. Both
directions can be shown on one Enneagram by
eliminating the arrows and connecting the
proper points with plain lines.

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The Direction of Integration
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The Direction of Stress
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1-7-5-8-2-4-1
9-3-6-9
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1-4-2-8-5-7-1
9-6-3-9
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No matter which personality type you are,
the types in both your Direction of
Integration and your Direction of Stress or
Disintegration are important influences. To
obtain a complete picture of yourself (or of
someone else), you must take into
consideration the basic type and wing as
well as the two types in the Directions of
Integration and Disintegration. The factors
represented by those four types blend into
your total personality and provide the
framework for understanding the influences
operating in you. For example, no one is
simply a personality type Two. A Two has
either a One-wing or a Three-wing, and the
Two's Direction of Disintegration (Eight)
and its Direction of Integration (Four) also
play important parts in his or her overall
personality.
Ultimately, the goal is for each of us to
"move around" the Enneagram,
integrating what each type symbolizes and
acquiring the healthy potentials of all the
types. The ideal is to become a balanced,
fully functioning person who can draw on the
power (or from the Latin,
"virtue") of each as needed. Each
of the types of the Enneagram symbolizes
different important aspects of what we need
to achieve this end. The personality type we
begin life with is therefore less important
ultimately than how well (or badly) we use
our type as the beginning point for our
self-development and self-realization.
The Three Instincts
The three Instincts (often erroneously
called "the subtypes") are a third
set of distinctions that are extremely
important for understanding personality. A
major aspect of human nature lies in our
instinctual "hard wiring" as
biological beings. We each are endowed with
specific instinctual intelligences that are
necessary for our survival as individuals
and as a species. We each have a
self-preservation instinct (for preserving
the body and its life and functioning), a
sexual instinct (for extending ourselves in
the environment and through the
generations), and a social instinct (for
getting along with others and forming secure
social bonds).
These instinctual drives profoundly
influence our personalities, and at the same
time, our personalities largely determine
how each person prioritizes these
instinctual needs. Thus, while every human
being has all three of these instincts
operating in him or her, our personality
causes us to be more concerned with one of
these instincts than the other two. We call
this instinct our dominant instinct. This
tends to be our first priority the area
of life we attend to first. But when we are
more caught up in the defences of our
personality further down the Levels of
Development our personality most
interferes with our dominant instinct.
Further, our Enneagram type flavours the
way in which we approach our dominant
instinctual need. Combining our Enneagram
type with our dominant instinct yields a
much more specific portrait of the workings
of our personality. When we apply the
distinctions of these three instincts to the
nine Enneagram types they create 27 unique
combinations of type and dominant instinct
that account for differences and variability
within the types. We call these combinations
the Instinctual Variants.
The following are brief descriptions of
the three instincts:
Self Preservation Instinct
People who have this as their dominant
instinct are preoccupied with the safety,
comfort, health, energy, and well-being of
the physical body. In a word, they are
concerned with having enough resources to
meet life's demands. Identification with the
body is a fundamental focus for all humans,
and we need our body to function well in
order to be alive and active in the world.
Most people in contemporary cultures are not
faced life or death "survival" in
the strictest sense; thus, Self-Preservation
types tend to be concerned with food, money,
housing, medical matters, and physical
comfort. Moreover, those primarily focused
on self-preservation, by extension, are
usually interested in maintaining these
resources for others as well. Their focus of
attention naturally goes towards things
related to these areas such as clothes,
temperature, shopping, decorating, and the
like, particularly if they are not satisfied
in these areas or have a feeling of
deficiency due to their childhoods.
Self-Pres types tend to be more grounded,
practical, serious, and introverted than the
other two instinctual types. They might have
active social lives and a satisfying
intimate relationship, but if they feel that
their self-preservation needs are not being
met, still tend not to be happy or at ease.
In their primary relationships, these people
are "nesters" they seek
domestic tranquillity and security with a
stable, reliable partner.
Sexual (aka "Intimate")
Instinct
Many people originally identify themselves
as this type because they have learned that
the Sexual types are interested in
"one-on-one relationships." But
all three instinctual types are interested
in one-on-one relationships for different
reasons, so this does not distinguish them.
The key element in Sexual types is an
intense drive for intimacy and a constant
awareness of the "chemistry"
between themselves and others. Sexual types
are immediately aware of the attraction, or
lack thereof, between themselves and other
people. Further, while the basis of this
instinct is related to sexuality, it is not
necessarily about people engaging in the
sexual act. There are many people that we
are excited to be around for reasons of
personal chemistry that we have no intention
of "getting involved with."
Nonetheless, we might be aware that we feel
stimulated in certain people's company and
less so in others. The sexual type is
constantly moving toward that sense of
intense stimulation and intimacy in their
relationships and in their activities. They
are the most "energized" of the
three instinctual types, and tend to be more
aggressive, competitive, charged, and
emotionally intense than the Self-Pres or
Social types. Sexual types need to have deep
intimacy in their primary relationships or
else they remain unsatisfied. They enjoy
being intensely involved even merged
with others, and can become disenchanted
with partners who are unable to meet their
need for intense energetic union. Losing
yourself in a "fusion" of being is
the ideal here, and Sexual types are always
looking for this state with others and with
stimulating objects in their world.
Social (aka "Adaptive")
Instinct
Just as many people tend to misidentify
themselves as Sexual types because they want
one-on-one relationships, many people fail
to recognize themselves as Social types
because they get the (false) idea that this
means always being involved in groups,
meetings, and parties. If Self-Preservation
types are interested in adjusting the
environment to make themselves more secure
and comfortable, Social types adapt
themselves to serve the needs of the social
situation they find themselves in. Thus,
Social types are highly aware of other
people, whether they are in intimate
situations or in groups. They are also aware
of how their actions and attitudes are
affecting those around them. Moreover,
Sexual types seek intimacy, Social types
seek personal connection: they want to stay
in long-term contact with people and to be
involved in their world. Social types are
the most concerned with doing things that
will have some impact on their community, or
even broader domains. They tend to be
warmer, more open, engaging, and socially
responsible than the other two types. In
their primary relationships, they seek
partners with whom they can share social
activities, wanting their intimates to get
involved in projects and events with them.
Paradoxically, they actually tend to avoid
long periods of exclusive intimacy and quiet
solitude, seeing both as potentially
limiting. Social types lose their sense of
identity and meaning when they are not
involved with others in activities that
transcend their individual interests.
Typing Yourself and Others
Once you have used the Riso-Hudson
Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI, Version
2.5) to discover your dominant type, you
may be curious about the personality types
of others. Since you will usually not be
able to administer the RHETI to business
associates or to strangers, you might wonder
how you can become more skilled at
discovering which type someone else is.
You may be able to figure out the types
of a few close friends rather quickly, or
you may find it difficult to categorize
people and not know where to begin. Either
state is normal. It is not always apparent
which type someone is, and it takes time and
study to sharpen your skills. Remember that
you are like a beginning medical student who
is learning to diagnose a wide variety of
conditions, some healthy and some unhealthy.
It takes practice to learn to identify the
various "symptoms" of each type
and to see larger "syndromes."
Despite the subtleties and complexities
involved, there is really no secret about
typing people. You must learn which traits
go with each type and observe how people
manifest those traits. This is a subtle
undertaking because there are many subtypes
and quirks to each personality type.
Different types can sometimes seem similar,
particularly if their motivations are not
taken into account. This is why it is not
sufficient to focus on a single trait in
isolation and make a diagnosis based on it
alone. It is necessary to see each type as a
whole its overall style, approach to
life, and especially its underlying
motivations before you can determine
someone's type reliably. Many elements must
come together before you can be sure that
you have typed someone accurately.
Moreover, when we diagnose others, we are
always on thinner ice than when we use the
Enneagram to deepen our own self-knowledge.
It is, of course, more appropriate to apply
this material to ourselves than to type
others while we avoid looking at our own
lives. Nevertheless, it is unrealistic to
think that anything as interesting (or as
insightful) as the Enneagram will not be
used for better understanding others. In
fact, we categorize people all the time. No
one approaches others without some sort of
mental categories. We automatically perceive
people either as male or female, black or
white, attractive or unattractive, good or
bad, friend or enemy, and so forth. It is
not only honest to be aware of this, it is
useful to have more accurate and appropriate
categories for everyone, including
ourselves.
Although the Enneagram is probably the
most open-ended and dynamic of typologies,
this does not imply that the Enneagram can
say all there is to say about human beings.
Individuals are understandable only up to a
certain point beyond which they remain
mysterious and unpredictable. Thus, while
there can be no simple explanations for
persons, it is still possible to say
something true about them. In the last
analysis, the Enneagram helps us to do that
and only that. The Enneagram is useful
because it indicates with startling clarity
certain constellations of meaning about
something that is essentially beyond
definition: the mystery that we are.
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