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Healthy: Able to elicit strong
emotional responses from others: very
appealing, endearing, lovable, affectionate.
Trust important: bonding with others,
forming permanent relationships and
alliances. / Dedicated to individuals and
movements in which they deeply believe.
Community builders: responsible, reliable,
trustworthy. Hard-working and persevering,
sacrificing for others, they create
stability and security in their world,
bringing a cooperative spirit.
At Their Best: Become
self-affirming, trusting of self and others,
independent yet symbiotically interdependent
and cooperative as an equal. Belief in self
leads to true courage, positive thinking,
leadership, and rich self-expression.
Average: Start investing their
time and energy into whatever they believe
will be safe and stable. Organizing and
structuring, they look to alliances and
authorities for security and continuity.
Constantly vigilant, anticipating problems.
/ To resist having more demands made on
them, they react against others
passive-aggressively. Become evasive,
indecisive, cautious, procrastinating, and
ambivalent. Are highly reactive, anxious,
and negative, giving contradictory,
"mixed signals." Internal
confusion makes them react unpredictably. /
To compensate for insecurities, they become
sarcastic and belligerent, blaming others
for their problems, taking a tough stance
toward "outsiders." Highly
reactive and defensive, dividing people into
friends and enemies, while looking for
threats to their own security. Authoritarian
while fearful of authority, highly
suspicious, yet, conspiratorial, and
fear-instilling to silence their own fears.
Unhealthy: Fearing that they have
ruined their security, they become panicky,
volatile, and self-disparaging with acute
inferiority feelings. Seeing themselves as
defenceless, they seek out a stronger
authority or belief to resolve all problems.
Highly divisive, disparaging and berating
others / Feeling persecuted, that others are
"out to get them," they lash-out
and act irrationally, bringing about what
they fear. Fanaticism, violence. /
Hysterical, and seeking to escape
punishment, they become self-destructive and
suicidal. Alcoholism, drug overdoses,
"skid row," self-abasing
behaviour.
Key Motivations: Want to have
security, to feel supported by others, to
have certitude and reassurance, to test the
attitudes of others toward them, to fight
against anxiety and insecurity.
Examples: Robert F. Kennedy,
Malcolm X, Princess Diana, George H. W.
Bush, Tom Hanks, Bruce Springsteen, Candice
Bergen, Gilda Radner, Meg Ryan, Helen Hunt,
Sigourney Weaver, Mel Gibson, Patrick
Swayze, Julia Roberts, Phil Donahue, Jay
Leno, John Goodman, Diane Keaton, Woody
Allen, David Letterman, Andy Rooney, Jessica
Lange, Tom Clancy, J. Edgar Hoover, Richard
Nixon, and "George Costanza"
(Seinfeld).
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